The Easiest Thing (You’re Not Doing) To Make Your Girl Happy
Don’t Call Me Baby
What You Won’t Do for Love
When the Shoe Drops
I Don’t Love You Anymore
He Never Says I’m Pretty
The Benevolent Dictator
Mixing Friends and Lovers
I suspect, as the previous two commenters, that her parents have always supported her. I think it’s great that people pursue their dreams, but after a solid attempt (2-5 yrs) if you can’t support yourself, it’s time to switch paths. There are lots of things I enjoy doing that wouldn’t pay the bills, I call them ‘hobbies’ not ‘professions.’ I don’t think there is anything wrong with his concern. He drew a conclusion that she was at least self-sufficient based on what he saw of her life, and now he realizes she may not be. Whether or not he should have had a frank conversation about finances by now, I don’t know, it depends on the nature of the relationship. But as for all the commenters that seem to think he shouldn’t care about her earning power and finances, I think that’s BS. I don’t expect someone to match my salary, but I don’t want to be bankrolling someone else’s life either. There has to be a happy medium. And certainly, it’s not all about money, people bring more to the table than their dollar amount. I can imagine marrying a man that desperately wants to stay home and care for our children, perhaps that would work for me if the situation made sense all around. @Crotchrocket, the parents do not appear to have ‘gifted’ the condo to their daughter. It sounds like it is in their name, and she pays the condo fee (which would probably be considered ‘rent’, though it is likely an informal agreement). If they married, that condo wouldn’t ever become marital property because it doesn’t even belong to her. If they haven’t already put the condo in her name, it seems they probably never will as they could be protecting their investment from exactly that type of situation (divorce -> ex gets half the equity of a condo they bought for her exclusive benefit). Frankly, if they did gift it to her and then it became marital property (which it wouldn’t automatically), and he divorced her and wanted to cash out, she could actually be forced to sell the condo and the parents would be out their investment, and their daughter would be out of a home. The parents may very well be planning to sell the condo if she gets married and moves out, and are using it as an investment vehicle since there are some tax benefits to a second home. But re alimony, I definitely concur.
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Don’t Call Me Baby
What You Won’t Do for Love
When the Shoe Drops
I Don’t Love You Anymore
He Never Says I’m Pretty
The Benevolent Dictator
Mixing Friends and Lovers
I suspect, as the previous two commenters, that her parents have always supported her. I think it’s great that people pursue their dreams, but after a solid attempt (2-5 yrs) if you can’t support yourself, it’s time to switch paths. There are lots of things I enjoy doing that wouldn’t pay the bills, I call them ‘hobbies’ not ‘professions.’ I don’t think there is anything wrong with his concern. He drew a conclusion that she was at least self-sufficient based on what he saw of her life, and now he realizes she may not be. Whether or not he should have had a frank conversation about finances by now, I don’t know, it depends on the nature of the relationship. But as for all the commenters that seem to think he shouldn’t care about her earning power and finances, I think that’s BS. I don’t expect someone to match my salary, but I don’t want to be bankrolling someone else’s life either. There has to be a happy medium. And certainly, it’s not all about money, people bring more to the table than their dollar amount. I can imagine marrying a man that desperately wants to stay home and care for our children, perhaps that would work for me if the situation made sense all around. @Crotchrocket, the parents do not appear to have ‘gifted’ the condo to their daughter. It sounds like it is in their name, and she pays the condo fee (which would probably be considered ‘rent’, though it is likely an informal agreement). If they married, that condo wouldn’t ever become marital property because it doesn’t even belong to her. If they haven’t already put the condo in her name, it seems they probably never will as they could be protecting their investment from exactly that type of situation (divorce -> ex gets half the equity of a condo they bought for her exclusive benefit). Frankly, if they did gift it to her and then it became marital property (which it wouldn’t automatically), and he divorced her and wanted to cash out, she could actually be forced to sell the condo and the parents would be out their investment, and their daughter would be out of a home. The parents may very well be planning to sell the condo if she gets married and moves out, and are using it as an investment vehicle since there are some tax benefits to a second home. But re alimony, I definitely concur.
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