Some people (men too) like complicated relationships…or need the other person to “bring the crazy.” It’s too bad, because it’s often the nice stable people, who are the kind of relationship partners you should be looking for, who need that drama. So when the stable people who say “I’d really like a nice man/woman” find one, then sometimes you get in return “there’s no spark.”
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VJ says:
February 23, 2011 at 1:30 am
Again, it’s all about choices you make and who you want to spend your time & effort with & on. Sadly, there are truly worthy ‘efforts’ & even ‘projects’ and many less so. By the time you’re an adult? You really need to be able to quickly discriminate between these classes of people. You need to be always looking for true character, and recognizing a lack of same in people to preserve your sanity & precious time. In any & all transactions & interactions. Not just the intimate ones!
There’s that tall, lithe athletic musician who’s a sensitive artist by day & a hard core drummer by night. He’s everyone’s dream of a man, until he starts drinking. Which is an occupational hazard. So every weekend Ms. ‘Waiting’ is on hand to deal with not Mr. Lovely, but Mr. Hyde. Abusive & drunk & disorderly, and disrespectful to everyone & everything he loves & respects while drunk those few hours. There’s that smart, tall, blond, young lithe athletic trainer & yoga instructor who just can’t seem to ‘settle down’. She’s a proverbial ‘date stacker’, and will never quite commit to anyone for long. ‘She wants to keep her options open’ she tells you. (Meaning she’s got someone better in rotation). Don’t wait around for either, it’s not likely to end well for you.
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VJ says:
February 23, 2011 at 1:30 am
Again, it’s all about choices you make and who you want to spend your time & effort with & on. Sadly, there are truly worthy ‘efforts’ & even ‘projects’ and many less so. By the time you’re an adult? You really need to be able to quickly discriminate between these classes of people. You need to be always looking for true character, and recognizing a lack of same in people to preserve your sanity & precious time. In any & all transactions & interactions. Not just the intimate ones!
There’s that tall, lithe athletic musician who’s a sensitive artist by day & a hard core drummer by night. He’s everyone’s dream of a man, until he starts drinking. Which is an occupational hazard. So every weekend Ms. ‘Waiting’ is on hand to deal with not Mr. Lovely, but Mr. Hyde. Abusive & drunk & disorderly, and disrespectful to everyone & everything he loves & respects while drunk those few hours. There’s that smart, tall, blond, young lithe athletic trainer & yoga instructor who just can’t seem to ‘settle down’. She’s a proverbial ‘date stacker’, and will never quite commit to anyone for long. ‘She wants to keep her options open’ she tells you. (Meaning she’s got someone better in rotation). Don’t wait around for either, it’s not likely to end well for you.